January GRG Connections

Grandparents Raising Grandchildren

      Issue 7             Volume 7     

Start New Year’s Resolutions with a GRandS Workshop

At the PBC Cooperative Extension Office,

559 N. Military Trail, West Palm Beach, FL 33415

DAY WORKSHOPS 10AM TO 1PM (Brown Bag Lunch)
  • January 11 & 25           April 11 & 25                 July 11 & 25
  • February 8 & 22           May 9 & 23                    August 8 & 22
  • March 14 & 28              June 13 & 27               September 12 & 26   

All Workshops are FREE!

EVENING WORKSHOPS 6PM TO 8PM

  •  January 26                   April 26                           July 26
  • February 23                  May 31                             August 30
  • March 29                       June 28                           September 27

Childcare will NOT be provided for Evening Workshops.

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GRandS/GRG Lending Library Comment

From a WPB Grandmother

What a wonderful array of topics, so needed and so necessary to navigate the perilous waters of grand parenting our precious ones and deal with the various contingencies their parents present us.

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Child and Adolescent Development: Ten to Sixteen-Year-Olds. What Are They Like?

Excerpts from a Power Point Presentation

By Maisie Ross, M.S., CFLE – Program Leader, Family & Consumer Sciences

Palm Beach County Extension, West Palm Beach

  • Myths About Teens:  1) Peer pressure is at its worst during adolescent and tween years.  2) Teens prefer their friends to their parents.  3) Teens won’t talk to adults; they won’t open up.  4) If parents don’t get control of their teens, they may be sorry later.  5) Teens are moody, rebellious, and never serious.  6) Teens don’t care about others.
  • Developmental Tasks for Teens
    • Achieving new and more mature relations with age-mates of both sexes.
    • Achieving a masculine or feminine social role.
    • Accepting one’s physique and using the body effectively.
    • Achieving emotional independence from parents and other adults.
    • Preparing for marriage and family life.
    • Preparing for an economic career.
    • Developing a set of values and an understanding of right and wrong as a guide to behavior.
    • Desiring and achieving socially responsible behavior.
  • Teens Developmental Stages
  1. Teens are preparing to develop an identity separate from their family.
  2. Separation process is a must for teens.
  3. Due to body changes, there sometimes is confusion about whether they want to grow up.
  4. Hormonal changes can cause mood swings characterized by easy tears, sudden outbursts, giggling among girls and wrestling among boys.
  5. They need to work out their relationships with their peers to find out how they fit in.
  6. They become all-powerful, all-knowing and are fearless.
  7. They still need an adult to relate to.
  • Developmental Issues in Adolescence
  1. Self-Conscious:  Anxious about group image.  Vulnerable to peers.  Respond to personal recognition.  May easily become embarrassed.
  2. Self-Focused:  Unaware of how their behavior affects the rest of the group.  May compete for group time.  Fragile emotionally in response to disappointment in peer group.
  3. Seeking Peer Acceptance:  Need emotional safety.  May exaggerate to belong to the group.
  4. Gaining Independence:  Slow to trust adults.  Test limits and authority.  Need increasing amounts of freedom and responsibilities.  Need clear boundaries.
  5. Moving from Concrete Thinking and Begin to Reason More:  May be judgmental.  May describe issues in black and white.  Need step-by-step instruction/direction.  Prefer “here and now” demonstrations.
  6. Developing a Sense of The Future:  Not scared by “fear tactics.”   Limited understanding of consequences.
  7. Gaining Skills and Values:  Still open to change.  Impressionable.
  • Eight Ideas for Working with 10-16 Year Olds:  1) Love them no matter what and let them know it.  2) When teens mess up, teach them how to do better next time.  3) Tell teens what’s good about them and tell them often.  4) Build trust.  5) Listen.  Really listen.  6) Show respect.  7) Help teens belong.  8) Teach joy.
  • 7 Rules for Parents of Teens
  1. What you do matters.
  2. You can’t be too loving.
  3. Stay involved.
  4. Change your parenting skills as needed.

Go with the Flow.

  1. Set limits.
  2. Encourage independence.
  3. Explain your decisions.

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